We need to talk about our facade if we want to change: we need to understand why we have it, want it and feel about it to change and we can’t have a relationship with God in our facade. God wants a relationship with the real us.
Today, I was talking to someone about our facades and how ingrained it is: how convinced we are that it is us and so live in a lot of denial that we live in this facade at all and hate it being confronted because we want it so much. In fact, in our current society we are even encouraged to live in facade: through social media, celebrity, vanity, work, families and we constantly judge anyone who does not fit our version of “the norm.” We are constantly projected at to not be ourselves and we do the same to others. The older we get the more ingrained our facade gets so it can seem like an almost impossible task to crack through this tough shell. It isn’t easy and Jesus describes the deconstruction of the facade as the hardest thing you’ll ever do.
A blog I wrote 2014 was about this cracking of that shell: https://thetruthofitall.co.uk/category/the-three-selves/ . When I read it now I can actually see that I was in a lot of facade writing it. I had had some intellectual realisation, but not a soul-based emotional realisation and hence here I am still in facade most of the time… I am clear evidence that without emotionally feeling about my facade, why I have it and the sin in having it, nothing really changes.
I don’t think in 2014 I really understood the depth of my facade or my fears about letting it go; my addiction to it and its addictions. I am still learning, but I am now trying to pay more attention to it and this involves a lot of cringing; a lot saying to myself “Maxine, you’re in facade, what are afraid of feeling; what are your avoiding?” or not paying attention and staying in facade for whatever reason i.e. I want something from my environment/ am willing to barter myself for this.
I thought it would help if I share what helps me and some information that really gives me no excuse for not knowing when I am in facade.
In 2014 Jesus and Mary ran their second assistance group which contained essential information for anyone wanting to know how to progress, including information on understanding the three parts of ourselves that currently exist: the real self (the undamaged self God created), the hurt self (created by your environment and yourself) and the facade self (created by your environment and yourself to avoid the other two selves). Jesus had talked about this material before, but these talks brought together previous information in a very clear and direct way. Part of the reason was many people had been listening to Divine Truth for years by then (it was 2 years for me at the time, but of course it’s 7 years for me now) and showing no progress, because they had not understood or more likely not wanted to know that they were in facade and why that is such a big problem. I recommend listening to these talks as many times as you need to.
But also on the website Jesus published an outline for each talk and I have printed off the “Understanding Self: Introduction” because it summaries why we are stagnant and don’t develop our real selves and gives a fairly comprehensive list of adjectives about each self and I use this list to help me identify when I am in facade. For more detail, please refer to the links below this post.
But just to give you an idea, this is what Jesus says and it taken directly from his outline on www.divinetruth.com:
My real emotional self:
- Is sensitive, aware, perceptive and insightful
- Is expressive, animated, communicative, open and unrestrained
- Is honest, truthful, sincere, frank, candid, blunt and transparent
- Is adventurous, courageous, daring, bold, creative, brave and audacious
- Is curious, inquisitive, questioning, probing, searching and enquiring
- Is emotional, feeling and sensing
- Can develop to become wise, intelligent, clever, gifted and logical
- Can develop to become sensible, practical, responsible, accountable, dependable and rational
- Can develop to become loving, caring, kind, gentle, considerate and compassionate
My hurt emotional self:
- Is pained, hurt, aggrieved, wounded, injured, upset, and distressed
- Is timid, nervous, shy, fearful, hesitant, apprehensive, cautious and concerned
- Is fragmented, disjointed, uneven, suppressed, dormant, undeveloped, concealed, embryonic
- Is humiliated, shamed, embarrassed, disgraced, unfavoured, and self-conscious
- Is rejected, discarded, unwanted, and unneeded by others
- Is angry, rebellious, self-absorbed, self-centred, and lacks awareness of surroundings
Now wait for this one – it’s quite a list and when you start to feel your facade it’s going to feel pretty yucky and you can see why it’s not good. Do you recognise yourself?
My façade emotional self:
- Loves addiction, compulsion, obsession, urges, cravings, fixation and mania
- Loves bullying, force, harassment, oppression, repression, coercion and manipulation
- Loves abuse, cruelty, nastiness, meanness, brutality, viciousness and unkindness
- Loves resistance, conflict, confrontation, disagreement, quarrel and squabbling
- Loves arrogance, condescension, superiority, conceit, disdain, pride and egotism
- Is insensitive, unaware, lacks perception or insight
- Is un-expressive or false in its expression, pretending and made up
- Is unanimated or false in its animation, lethargic or forced vibrancy
- Is closed, reserved, controlled, forced, guarded and untrusting
- Is dishonest, untruthful, insincere, lacks frankness, opaque and is not candid
- Is prying, interfering, snooping, nosy, meddling, intrusive, invasive and pushy
- Is unemotional or falsely emotional, unfeeling, unwise, dumb, stupid, and illogical
- Is fixed, immovable, predetermined and rigid
- Is apathetic, lazy, disinterested, uninvolved, bored and unconcerned
- Is unwise, imprudent, thoughtless, irrational, reckless, irresponsible and careless
- Is selfish, self-absorbed, self-centred, narcissistic and vain
So there you go, it’s a great list and very helpful. Now don’t be, as I have done, hard on myself about it (that’s your facade and an addiction anyway) – just be honest and if you want to understand more see the links below.
Hope it helps and thank you to Jesus and Mary for such great information. . I am a beginner in really starting to understand this so please refer to the experts, so to speak – those who have deconstructed much of their facade (walked the walk) and know the benefits of doing so, including understanding in their hearts God’s truth on this subject.
There is further information on the creation of the facade in the 2016 Assistant Group: Developing my loving self.